Imagine this…..
You are a little kid, like maybe two or three years old. You are noticing that this wondrous human body you are tumbling around in has SO many sensations. Like SO many. The way a cold popsicle feels in your mouth. The way a kitten’s fur is so soft AND at the same time makes this vibrating SOUND that you can feel. The way your eyes get spots in them when you walk from a dark room out into the sunshine. The feeling you get in your nose before you sneeze. The mounting excitement you feel in your body when you see a friend that you love. And so many more.
One of the newest sensations that you are reveling in is this feeling you get between your legs when you wiggle your toes or when you sit on the side of the couch a certain way. WHAT is that? WHY does it happen? It feels so good.
What if (now just hang in there with me, adults reading this) when you brought this inquiry to a grown up they were like, its amazing, right? Imagine that this grown up safely, kindly shared the exciting news that feeling grows as you grow. It intensifies and when you let it increase into it’s fullness that it erupts into pure joy.
What if the world around you celebrated this feeling as a feeling that belongs to each of us as our very own. What if you were taught that this feeling is yours alone. What if you were told that your joy in this feeling matters as much as everyone else’s. What if you were told that you can share this feeling if + when you want to and that you don’t have to. What if you were told that this feeing is DEF private and not because it’s shameful but because it’s special, scared, and sometimes, messy. What if you were told that everyone is responsible for their own arrival at this feeling. What if you were told that you can help others find their way there, to this feeling, but only if you want to and you should feel no obligation.
As you grow up some public health and harm reduction messaging is added: don’t get pregnant if you don’t mean to and here is how you do that. Don’t get anyone sick. Here is how you will keep yourself safe from people who’d like to manipulate or harm this pleasure of yours. Don’t worry, this kind of harm is rare. You are safe. You are told that if/when someone abuses, threatens this feeling within you, that you are to know that you did nothing wrong. The adults tell you that there are laws and systems put into place (that work + are accessible, equally, to everyone) to keep you safe.
Artful, age appropriate, scientific + evidenced based messages supporting the reality that most orgasms you will have in your live are for fun are shared with you, without fuss. The messages tell you that if you choose, some of the times you feel this feeling might be to create another human. The messages reinforce that procreation isn’t what this feeling is for MOST of the time. The messages joyfully remind you that most of the times in your life when you feel this feeling it will be simply to feel good. Sometimes with other people. Often, alone. And you will be able to access this feeling for all of your life, it’s not just a feeling for young bodies.
What if, indeed.
Imagine what that this kind of messaging could do for you, for another, for relationships, for friendships, for joy, and for public health.
I invite you to give yourself the gift of moving towards a lived experience of your orgasms belonging to you first. Others, second.
Now go play!
Onwards, y’all.
Brilliant! I love this piece, Sera.
What if… indeed! 💗